Separation Anxiety

St Pius X Childrens Center Helping with Separation Anxiety

Congratulations! You’ve done a great job as a parent: your child feels safe with you and is hesitant to go out into the world without you. Now it is your job to teach your son or daughter that school is a place that kids go without their parents. You can instill in your child the knowledge that school is a place you trust, and to which you will return when their time learning is over. Here are some of our best tips to help you succeed.

1. Tell your child that preschool is fun.

Use a picture book to help you. There are many available that can open great conversations with your child. Most are available at your local library.

2. Answer questions, but don't talk too much about it.

Sometimes little ones can become overwhelmed because preschool is all they hear about for days. You may need to tell loving grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends to ‘cool it’ if your child seems anxious about the subject.

3. Start the day with a good night's sleep and healthy breakfast.

Being tired or hungry won’t help the school day out very much.

4. Escort your child into the classroom.

Once you’re there, let the teacher know you’ve arrived. She will be able to help if it looks like tears may be coming. 

5. A quick good-bye equals a quick recovery.

Do not linger.  Tell your child good-bye and also give a quick good-bye to the teacher. Remember… we are the Queens of Distraction in the classroom.

6. Never, never, never sneak out.

Your child needs to learn to trust you and us. This may be hard at first, but it is better in the long run.

7. They may be fine at first, but cry after a few weeks.

Don’t be surprised if your child seems fine at first, but begins to cry after a few weeks at school. The honeymoon is over, and they may be tired or just don’t feel like coming. Aren’t there days when you’d like to stay at home? We will get them happy and busy and glad they came to school.

8. Assure your child is not sick.

Illness is one reason that little ones have a difficult separation. If you’re certain that your son or daughter is healthy, say goodbye.  Be sure to let your teacher and administration know if there are any issues at home – like the loss of a pet, a sick grandparent, a divorce, etc. – that may be contributing to your child’s teariness.

9. Save your tears for the parking lot.

If your child sees that you are upset, he or she will not want to stay with us. Keep a brave face. You can do it!

We promise to always take great care of your little one.

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